Hi there! I'm Rachel Sizemore...
I am a Sex, Love & Relationship Coach and host of the podcast, Ripen.
I'm here to help you get out of your head and into your body, so you can experience pleasure and desire again... wink, wink!
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![There’s more talk on the prevalence of sexual violation in our culture now thankfully, with 1 in 4 women experiencing some form of it, 1 in 3 on college campuses. But there’s still a strong stigma regarding the aftermath of being a “victim.” That’s why the work of women like my guest on Ripen Episode 10, Lisa Foster is so important. Her passion is empowering women to reclaim their power and voice after sexual violation. And on Ripen, we chat specifically about reclaiming sexuality, finding pleasure and power in your pleasure, after violation, divorce and just being numb and disconnected from yourself for whatever reason.
This episode is so inspiring and enlightening. I can’t wait for you to give it a listen.
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![I started my morning being interviewed by the lovely Amanda Testa of Find Your Feminine Fire. I share 3 key strategies for when you've tried everything and you're still not getting the results that you want in your life. The third strategy in particular is something you might never have heard about! .
I've found I love sharing via audio/video - hence the podcast! - so it's fun to be back in this medium while Ripen is on break. .
You can check out the interview here… http://bit.ly/2uMOImW [link in profile]
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Day 18. #30DaysofShowingUp
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![I'm afraid to say the wrong thing. But more afraid to say nothing. .
White supremacy is not ok. Standing by doing and saying nothing just because I don't hold those views - also not ok.
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I want to be sensitive to the fact that there is so much I don't understand, but somehow I have to do that and still say something. And I'm not really sure how.
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Two things I've found helpful -
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This google doc from Erika Hines on things we can do to get involved. http://bit.ly/2vCWWPD [Clickable link on my FB]
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This comic discussing white privilege (source of this image) http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/09/white-privilege-explained/ .
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![I get by with a little help from my friends.
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Well that and a few other things. .
Feeling so much better today so I want to reflect today on what helped me turn things around.
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It's something I do with my clients all the time that's small but actually super helpful. When a client shows up to her session feeling really good with a big win or a powerful shift, I invite her to reflect - What's working? What did you do that supported this shift? What would you tell your future self who could be struggling with a similar situation or challenge about what works best for you?
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So what helped me?
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As I mentioned in yesterday's post, my usual first step is self-compassion, and when that's not possible I aim for acceptance. Over and over again. I am where I am and that's ok. .
Second step, move the emotions. I laid on my bed and wailed until the real tears started to come. If that seems weird (ha, it probably is!), you can watch a movie or listen to a song that will help you get your emotions going. I also went to my S Factor dance class and let my emotions flow through moving my body. .
Third step, discharge the shame and connect with someone. In general when our inner critic is going mad, there's some story, I shouldn't have done that, said that, this situation in my life is wrong wrong wrong. Something we feel ashamed of that has a hold of us and won't let us go. .
The antidote for this, as Brene Brown talks about in her amazing books and TED talks (if you haven't seen her work, go, go now, I'll wait), is bringing the shame into the light of day. Share it with the person you feel you've wronged or with someone you trust. Shame is a shadow emotion, it really can't survive the vulnerability of being voiced. And it feels so much better when it's shared. Let someone support you, tell you that you're ok, that you still have value despite whatever shame. Connection is so so so so key. .
Fourth step, good ole gratitude. What is going well? What do you have to be grateful for? If you're still in the muck, gratitude may not be an instant switch, but I've found if you do what you can with it, [rest in comments 👇👇]](https://static1.squarespace.com/static/53684c48e4b0b3f114a982cb/538523a8e4b0699d85b28d8a/598fa7471dd454c50ce721ad/1502586706664/)
