Well, hello there. I'm Rachel Sizemore,
and I'm so grateful you are here!
Feeling like you’re not good enough, you’re not successful enough, your partner deserves better, your body isn’t hot enough, you’re not where you should be at this point in your life? Bleh. The real truth is, dwelling on these feelings keeps you from being the happy, confident, and sexy woman you know deep down you really are.
Being hard on yourself isn't getting you anywhere. It's making you feel crummy and worse, and it's getting in the way of getting what you want.
How do I know? I used to be the queen of beating myself up.
I had moxie in my teens and early 20s. When I was 16, I drove around with a bumper sticker telling the world I was “Beautiful & Single.” Maybe it was a bit obnoxious, but I felt sexy, self-assured, powerful. Anything was possible.
I had life by the horns. Then I lost it.
Somebody wrote “NOT” in shaving cream on my back windshield with an arrow pointing to my prized bumper sticker. I overheard someone say, “Oh Rachel, she's not as pretty as she thinks she is.” I got dumped. One boyfriend moved to California without even breaking up with me first. After graduating summa cum laude with an art history degree, I couldn't get a paid job in the art world to save my life. It was just life happening and no one thing was really that bad, but I didn't know how to handle it. I started to lose my sense of who I was and why I was valuable. I proceeded to spend most of my 20s underemployed and undervaluing my worth.
Somehow along the way, how I looked became the dominant story of my life. My “problem skin” turned into full-blown angry, cystic, painful acne.
I felt desperate to heal it, and I tried everything I could think of — cleanses, gluten free, dairy free, sugar free, a three-month elimination diet. And in between each new supposedly magic solution, I binged and drank to distract myself from how terrible I felt.
I thought my body was the one thing I should be able to control. For two years, I was either uncomfortably bloated or scarily skinny. Through it all, I felt guilty for failing, for being weak, and for being unable to fix myself.
I realize now that I was simply desperate to feel good enough.
My skin and my eating issues were just a way to distract myself from how lost and unsure I felt.
My healing started when I stopped beating myself up - for failing the various diets and more importantly, for not being where I thought I should be in my life by now. I began to forgive and value myself despite my imperfections. Then I embraced them. I stopped the false starts and quit obsessing about how I looked. Learning to love myself allowed me to heal my eating disorder and my acne. It has also allowed me to share my truth, to put myself out there, to own my worth as a coach, and build this business. Most importantly, it's allowed to me to relax and to enjoy my life.
I learned to embrace my body, to feel comfortable naked, to stop holding myself back from going for what I want.
And life started getting better and better.
My moxie was beaten out of me. Then I decided to live life on my own terms—set my own standards for love, my career, my body. I chose to be my true self in relationships. I took chances and tried a lot of different jobs. I’ve done a lot of cool shit - traveled the world (over 20 countries), worked on organic farms, went skydiving (twice!), volunteered with kids, moved to new cities, I even went salsa dancing by myself one time - all because I decided the only standards that matter are my own.
Having always been hard on myself, I never would have guessed embracing who and where you are is the secret to creating a joy filled life, but it has completely changed things for me.
And I'm here to help you do the same.
Are you stuck in cycle of self-criticism and self-sabotage?
We think that being hard on ourselves keeps us motivated, keeps us pushing our own boundaries. Occasionally it does. But for the most part, it just makes us feel bad. It leads us to gloss over what's going well and to magnify what isn't. It leads us to start ambitious plans and then falter, second-guess ourselves, and quit. It leads us to eat, to drink, to watch hours of TV, to do whatever it takes to numb the pain.
You know you were meant to be happy, to flourish, to adventure, to really live your life—all the way up. And I am here to tell you that that is 100% possible.
You can overcome your inner critic, the constant comparison, the sense that you are lagging behind. And you don’t have to do it alone. My life changed when I hired my own coach, and I’ve watched it happen time and time again with my own clients.
Is it time to stop getting in your own way and to start living a life you love?
(Because we all need one sometimes)
Rachel Sizemore is a Sex, Love & Relationship Coach who helps women reawaken to their bodies and their sexuality. She is passionate about getting women out of their heads and back into their bodies so they can experience pleasure and desire again. Rachel is also the creator and host of Ripen, the podcast for turning women on to their desires and truth. If you're looking to reignite the spark in yourself and with your love, check out Ripen on iTunes or Stitcher and connect with Rachel at www.rachelsizemore.com.