My sister just got married! As I prepared to celebrate with my family, I was reminded of just how true it is that we have to choose to make our lives happy.
Hosting a wedding is particularly emblematic of this because there is so much stress and coordinating and work jammed in with something so special and exciting. It's easy for tensions to run high and to find oneself focusing on the To Do List rather than the experience. But because weddings are so special, we usually do find our way to letting go and simply giving into the fun of it.
Things that don't go perfectly are overlooked, and friends and family come together to celebrate love and hope and the joy of connection. The joy of being human and being alive.
Because weddings are so important and special, as I said, we find our way to celebration and joy. But really, what's stopping us from getting there in everyday life?
Yes, I know you are busy. Your To Do List is likely a mile long and certain things in your life probably feel very heavy and stressful and hard. I can relate. This time we are living in is no joke in terms of the constant pressure to perform, achieve, and strive.
But if we give into the story that all of that stuff really has to get done and get done so perfectly, we run the risk of missing it.
The joy of being human and being alive.
And if we miss that, then really, what is the point?
So that is my challenge to you this week. Loosen the reigns a bit. Let go. Give into the idea that something special is happening now. Maybe it's the wedding of one of your favorite people in the world. Maybe it's just delicious coffee and the Sunday New York Times. Either way, choose to celebrate.
Focus on how many things in your life are perfectly right in this moment. Feel how fantastic it can be to exhale, take the pressure off, and simply choose joy instead.
That choice - the choice to be full of gratitude and joy - is available to you day in and day out, almost every single moment of your life. And the more you intentionally make that choice, at a wedding or on a random Friday afternoon, the happier your life will be.